By: @1JohnnyBailey | Social Entrepreneur
See what happens if we're not careful is, we all get stuck in the space/time continuum where everything and nothing is happening all at once. This is usually because we are all too busy doing "stuff." What is stuff? Nobody knows specifically, but the theory is that your "stuff" is all the habits, vices, and responsibilities you've amassed from whatever decisions you made over the course of your life. And well, here you are with a dream to do something great but can't because you're bogged down and surrounded by all this STUFF!
The problem is that most people don't realize there is all this "stuff" in their life; draining their energy, stealing their time, and taking up space! When we spread our attention on stuff it becomes thin and weak. When we focus our attention on less things it becomes a powerful beam with an impact people can feel.
I drew up this list to create awareness because awareness is the first step to progress. I can speak from experience when I tell you Success in anything requires Sacrifice. Here are 10 stuff-isms to remove that will make space for your passion:
1. Give up media: Social & Tele
“The trouble is, you think you have time” — Jack Kornfield
Unless your goals depend on media, you should minimize (or even eliminate). Figure this, If you watch TV for only 2 hours a day for a whole year that's 730 hours (2 hours x 365 days = 730 hours)... 730 / 24 hours is equal to 30 days. That's more than the whole month of FEBRUARY consuming other people's stuff. TV is an easy way to get way ahead or way behind... Ill let you do your own math for Facebook & Instagram.
2. GRQ Schemes
“Every day, in every way, I’m getting better and better” — Émile Coué
Get Rich Quick schemes are only attractive to the greedy, the impatient, and the ignorant. There's no such thing as something for nothing! And if you spend a bunch of time trying to get something for nothing and end up with nothing, that is valuable time wasted that could have been used making small continual improvements that will compound over time. Put the work in and gain experiences that translates into long lasting success.
3. Stop making Excuses
“It’s not about the cards you’re dealt, but how you play the hand.”
― Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture
Realizing that you are responsible for what happens next in your life is both frightening and exciting. But tis' true, accepting total responsibility for what happens in your life will remove you from the reactive victim chair and promotes you to the proactive leader podium Immediately (saves time).... Plus, excuses stymie growth. The end.
4. No More Control Freaking
"As long as everything is exactly the way I want it, I'm totally flexible." - Kathy Box
We don't have time to focus on things we cannot control, so we'll focus on the ones we can, and know that sometimes, the only thing you will be able to control is your attitude towards something.
5. Don't Say "Yes" to everything
"Learn to say NO without explaining yourself." - Johnny Bailey
Saying No is just as important as saying Yes. It's a balance. Yes sets the tone for agreeability and cooperation. No sets the tone for boundaries and respect for yourself. The word "No" is a legendary space maker. Try it!
6. Avoid Toxic People
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
― Jim Rohn
We have to protect our time and energy because it's from those things that everything else flows. In regards to environment, if you spend a little more time with people who are more accomplished than you, no matter how challenging that might be, you will become more successful.
7. Cut the Gossip
"I'm not going to tear you down... If you're bad mouthing me you're already down." - Steve Marobeli
Research shows that people who gossip the most have very high levels of anxiety. They are generally not particularly popular because they cannot be trusted. If your goals are important to you than you need more days filled with knowledge and inspiration, not trash. Receiving or distributing, gossip is just a bad investment of time. Remove it from your schedule.
8. Pass on Brunch & Happy Hour
"My favorite party trick is not going." - Anonymous
FOMO is real. We all get that anxiety when everyone is doing something and we are completely irrelevant if we are not doing it too. But it's rarely that extreme. Try to put yourself in the mind of the Producer; ie the chef who makes the food or the restaurant owner who sets the mood. Your 2 hours are valuable remember? Following the crowd is expensive; literally and figuratively. Give up the consumer mindset to make space for more production.
9. Stop the Validation Seeking Behavior
“The only way to avoid pissing people off is to do nothing important.” — Oliver Emberton
The best thing you can do is remain authentic, improve and provide value every day. If the number of “haters” is growing then that probably means you are doing important things. People pleasing usually leaves us carrying other people's stuff while they walk around hands free!
10. Give up Sleep
"Dreams are those that don't let you sleep at night." - Johnny Bailey
Sometimes, no matter how productive you are during the day, you need those extra hours at night. Without those extra periods of peace and quiet, you may not be able to get everything done. I believe we get ahead while others sleep! Get your rest, but push yourself. Realizing the dream makes "less sleep" worth it.
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